This quote from Leanne Payne, in her book, "The Healing Presence," struck me this morning. Who am I? It is in the context of relationship - with other human beings, and in relationship with our Creator, that we develop a deep, and abiding sense of "this is me, this is who I am."
To the extent that those relationships are healthy, we develop a healthy sense of self where we are secure, safe, strong, with a sense of well being at the deepest part of who we are. To the extents that those relationships are unhealthy, we develop a false self that we use to explain and cover over that lack of healthy connection.
Integrity has a lot to do with being comfortable inside our own skin so that we do not have to project a false self, but rather we can simply be who we are. Sometimes this is called self acceptance.